This topic is based off the book Developing a Million-Dollar Relationship: A Man’s Strategy to a Real Relationship on one of the essential requirements of a woman – communication.

     Communication is a little thing that can make a big difference.  Most of the time we take communication for granted because it is something that we do constantly through our use of verbal and non-verbal expressions, but when communication becomes flat your action can make all the difference.  Miscommunication is what starts wars and ends friendships; it is what destroys corporations and ruins reputations.  Ultimately, communication will be the one factor that either holds your relationship together or lets it fade away. 

     If you think communication with a woman is the same as a male you are fooling yourself.  Male communication often is a myriad of grunts and broken English, saying the littlest possible in the shortest amount of time. I call this locker room talk, and it has made shows such as the ESPN’s SportCenter extremely popular.

     Communication between women takes on a much more sophisticated role. Their sentences are much more complete, and contain much more information. In time, a woman’s relationship is built upon trading secrets and opening up to one another, something that is sometimes difficult for a man to do. If you want to have a fulfilling relationship and build a lasting friendship with your woman, you will need to learn to adapt your style to a more self-revealing method when communicating to her. 

     Effective communication with your woman doesn’t mean you have to act like a girl. Your woman doesn’t expect you to be a girlfriend, but she expects you to be her friend.  That is good news for you, because a man needs his woman to be his best friend, and here are a few suggestions for impeccable communication in your relationship. 

Making Words Count

     For women the best aphrodisiacs are words.  Intimacy can be found in her ears.  If you look for it below there, you are wasting your time.  It is no secret that women like to talk. They love to communicate. It is here they receive affirmation about life, relationships, etc. And the absolute best place to receive this affirmation is from her man.

     To make your words count, offer her authentic communication, no “locker room” talk. You must become venerable to her, and by opening up to her in this way you will be able to strengthen your relationship. Strong communication actually builds both of you through the community connection you receive from it – or unity.

Listen

     If you want to be the influential leader and friend in your woman’s life, you must first earn the right to be heard. Listen first. Listen to learn how she feels. Listen to learn what makes her smile. Listen for her dreams, her goals and desires in life and incorporate them into your life; make her success personal to you.

     I learned early on in my relationship with my wife that some sentences are code words. When my wife said, “Can we talk?” or “We need to talk,” I quickly learned that means, “I need to talk!” Instead of worrying that your woman is not listening to your needs, realize that if you listen to her, your relationship will last long enough for her to listen to you too. Listening is the most important piece of communication you can learn.

Remain Flexible

     As a student of life and of human interpersonal actions, I have come to realize that the correct interaction can stimulate action. Somebody once told me that interaction stimulates action, but interaction alone can’t deliver action. It is only by interacting in the right way that positive action is created.

     Good communication paints a clear picture in the hearts and minds of the listener, and opens a window into yours.  Nothing says I love you to a woman more than showing her a committed effort to improve. Communication is more that just words, and your behavior to improve will show her how much you care.

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