Have you ever heard the comment or seen the quote, “To be old and wise… One must first be young and stupid”?  This appears to be a profound statement, like one you would hear from the mouth of Ghandi himself.  It suggests and gives hope to the fact that if you are young and stupid, and you hang in long enough,  you will arrive and grow wise with age.  This quote, however, can be misleading and one day a person can wake up and find that life has left them behind.  Let me explain further.

Growth is not an automatic process.  You do not go to bed at night, lay down, fall asleep, and wake up the next day a little farther ahead than you were yesterday.  Here is another example: If you take a dollar and put it in your piggy bank.  Day by day you will not find that it grows suddenly to $1.01, $1.02, $1.03, etc.  No by itself that dollar does not grow, nor will you just automatically grow in life either.  So how do you grow? 

Growth needs to be a daily process if you are to mature and become wise.  Just like the dollar, if you would like to see it make a profit for you, then you must strategically invest the dollar into a money market or mutual fund and have conscience involvement.  Like the dollar if you will strategically invest into your life daily, multiplied with conscience involvement to grow, you will find that you will one day be mature and wise.  For some individuals, sadly, they will find that sometimes age comes alone.Š

This is an exerpt from the book Developing a Million-Dollar Relationship: A Man’s Strategy to a Real Relationship.

“I love you, you are perfect, now change!” Such a statement seems to be the underlying message of most modern relationships. Most people believe that change needs to happen in their relationship, but ironically it is usually directed at the other person. They believe themselves flawless, or at least their flaws aren’t affecting the relationship negatively. Most of us honestly believe that if our woman would change a few key areas in her life, our relationship would be perfect. How selfish!

Over the years, I have met many people who actually believe that they can ultimately change the person they are with into the person they want. How many times have I heard, “Well, he may not be perfect now, but that will change when we get married.” And then there is the somewhat frustrated young man who states, “She doesn’t do what I want her to do, but when we get married she won’t have a choice.” Sound familiar? Everyone can find flaws in another person, but somehow we are unwilling to even consider that we are the ones that need to change or adapt.

No relationship was built in a day. Instead they develop gradually over time, and only with effort and the willingness to improve yourself. A relationship requires daily care, daily growth, daily change. Most of the time, the person that needs to change is yourself. Read the rest of this entry »