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Generational Differences

I have spent the past month researching and working on how I wanted to present my Author Bio on my website.  At first I began reading every “How To” article written on Writing a Good Professional Personal Bio.  I did not like any suggestion I read.  They all said, “never to write your own Bio because you are too close to the situation” or “Write it in the third person, if you must write it yourself”.  I disagree. Bios written in these ways seem trite and boring to me.

My next line of execution was to research how other Authors, CEO’s, Top Executives, Comedians, and anyone else who had a personal bio online handled it.  Maybe, by using this tactic, I could find inspiration for my own bio.  While I did find a lot of inspiration, I also noticed a trend, and began to observe how different generations presented themselves to the public.  I found it rather interesting.

Personal Bios from the ‘Baby Boomer’ generation tended to have very concise biographies which presented a long list of accomplishments, awards, professional associations, degrees, and other rather impersonal qualifications.  With each one I read a picture was painted of how powerful, intelligent, and potentially deserving the person was of such a high position.  For them, these classifications distinguish them from the rest of society and provide them with a sense of entitlement.  However, rarely do these accolades paint a picture into the inner personality of who they are and left me feeling disconnected from the individual. 

By contrast, I found the bios I read for members of the ‘Generation- Y’ class to be very light and personal.  Sometimes they included their own list of qualifications -sometimes not.  But the trend behind the ‘Generation-Y’ group was that they always clearly painted a picture into the personality of the person.  (Sometimes revealing a little too much.)  What they hoped to accomplish was to put themselves out there - Flaws and All - in hopes of just being accepted for who they ‘are’ rather than ‘what’ they accomplished. 

So the question now is: What direction should you take to present yourself in a professional setting?  I  am not a ‘Baby Boomer’, nor do I fall into the ‘Generation-Y’ category.  So - what direction did I go with my bio?  Well, you will just have to read it for yourself on my Author Bio page.

Official Release of Developing a Million-Dollar Relationship

For Immediate Release

NEW RELATIONSHIP BOOK DELIVERS RESULTS
Men Prepare to Simplify Your Relationship

Parker, CO, United States, 09/20/2007 – James P. Schellman releases his innovative new book, Developing a Million-Dollar Relationship: A Man’s Strategy to a Real Relationship which answers the question: What if everyone approached their relationship with the same enthusiasm they do their careers?

Men everywhere agree that interacting with women, especially in a romantic relationship, whether married or single; can at times be very exasperating. However, that does not stop men from consuming their time seeking Ms. Right. Clearly evident by the multitudes of men and women who have decorated the web’s various online dating services in search of love. In a day when men are willing to pay thousands of dollars to sophisticated dating services, or for costly marital advice; men will find Developing a Million-Dollar Relationship: A Man’s Strategy to a Real Relationship to be the most economical solution yet.

“Developing a Million-Dollar Relationship: A Man’s Strategy to a Real Relationship” is patterned after business concepts and sports which makes the message easy-to-relate-to and extremely effective while providing practical solutions to the complexities of romantic relationships. Humor and relevant stories keep the mood light, and the reader interested. It is a message women easily agree with, and written with a man’s interest in mind.

The originality of this work is James P. Schellman’s ability and courage to teach intimacy in terminology that relates to the discipline of business rather than the traditional psychological language. The obvious advantage is that those who do not relate well to the ‘soft’ approach of mental health will find this piece practical and highly effective.

Testimonial For The Book
“Developing a Million-Dollar Relationship is a clear, reader friendly and logical approach to the complex dynamics of intimate relationships. Here, concepts are explained and put to practice to the degree that readers immediately find them relevant to their own lives.” Nili Sachs, Ph.D. Relationships expert, author of: “Booby-Trapped, How to Feel Normal in a Breast-Obsessed World”

Author James Schellman is not only an innovative writer, but a successful business man, consultant, public speaker, athlete, devoted husband and father. James has a passion for communication and leadership, and he has taken that passion and directed it at educating others to attain significance in their lives. Instead of obscure concepts, he brings years of personal and relevant experience from his own life and the lives of others, and he offers practical applications that nearly all men, regardless of background, can associate with.

Author: James Schellman
Website: www.jamesschellman.com
Contact: Contact
Publisher: BookSurge Publishing
ISBN: 1-4196-6869-2
5.25 X 8” Soft Cover 192 pp. $15.95
Available: JamesSchellman.com, Amazon.com, Borders.com, or wherever books are sold

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Questions and Answers

Q: Why did you write this book?
A: I love my wife. It is no secret, and certainly not something I am ashamed of. If you were to ask me on the street ‘why’, I would be more than happy to share it with you. Our dream is to be sitting one day, late in our lives, just as happy to be together as we were the day we married. To do so requires a substantial amount of accountability from me.

Originally, I began writing this book for myself as a collection of all my thoughts and lessons I have collected and organized to improve my own relationship. The theme of my book revolves around business concepts and sports – two things I relate to best. As the thoughts continued to become more structured, I felt inspired to share it with other men. If what I have written helps even one man, married or single, to improve or have a meaningful relationship, then the time spent on this will be well worth it. For me, it already has been worth its weight in gold.

Q: What makes your advice different?
A: It is fresh, fun, and practical. I do not have a degree in psychology, nor am I a counselor – and I will never pretend to be.

What I am is a communicator. As one of my favorite leadership teachers, Dr. John Maxwell, says, “I put the cookies on the bottom shelf so everyone can have some.” As a communicator, I prefer to take a complex subject, issue, or topic and break it down making it simple to understand. That is what I offer: Logical, Practical, and Enjoyable solutions to relationships. I think you will find the information to be relevant and you will be able to immediately apply it to your life.

Q: Is this book going to revolutionize my relationship?
A: Yes - without a doubt. This book is intended to open your eyes, provide you with positive practical applications, and encourage you to approach your relationship with the same enthusiasm as you would your career. It is going to be a catalyst - a person or thing that precipitates an event or change - in your relationship. However, you are the Agent of Change - someone who intentionally causes or accelerates behavioral change. This book is going to get you excited about your relationship.

Q: Who should read this book?
A: Anyone who desires more than just the ‘average’ relationship - that is the ’standard’ answer, right? But let me explain why both men and women will enjoy this book:

Men - you need to read this book because you will have fun reading the stories of successful businessmen and athletes who can model, through analogies, how to have a great relationship. Furthermore, the book expresses exactly what women want you to know, presented in a manner that you will enjoy reading, which makes this material invaluable. Whether you are married, have a girlfriend, or would like one - this book is for you. (When you are done; have her read it.)

Women - While the book is written with a man’s interest in mind, women should read this book because it expresses exactly what they want men to know, presented in a manner men relate to. Therefore, women should read the book to, first become oriented with the message. By doing so she may be able to articulate to her man what she is looking for. Then, once she has read it, she can pass the book along to her significant other and say, “this expresses exactly what I want you to know.” If you have a husband, a boyfriend, simply want a better relationship, or you just want to help a family member - you need this book.

Q: What is your experience?
A: I hold a degree in Speech Communication. Dealing with people is something I find very enjoyable, maybe because it is what we do everyday - constantly. I think everyone, even with wide differences, should be able to communicate. Why? Because there is no real need not to. Communication, or lack thereof, is what starts wars and ends friendships. Therefore, interacting with people in a manner that relates to them has always been a passion of mine. My background is in TV and Radio Broadcasting and I have worked in both fields through college and into my early adulthood.

In the midst of this, I was fortunate enough to become a professionally sponsored wakeboarder. I traveled the country doing demos, competing, teaching lessons, representing my sponsors, and generally being an ambassador to the sport. I am often asked: where is the coolest place I have ever ridden? The answer can fall under the strangest, most unique, and yes ‘coolest’ place – Alaska. I would have never thought I would be doing a water sport where the ice barely melts off the lakes, the sun does not go down until after midnight, and where the moose, bald eagles, and grizzly bears are part of the audience. (Honestly, the bears were just cheering for you to fall near shoreline)

Since college, I have worked for a fortune 50 company, founded and/or consulted to multiple small businesses, and most recently became a father. Throughout all of this, I have learned that I can do a few things very well – Communicate, Lead, and Teach and I have decided to share what I have learned, or am learning, with you. Since discovering my strengths, I absorb as much information on these subjects as I can in order to help me mature these strengths and live my life with purpose and passion.

Q: How did you start writing?
A: As a hobby. I started writing in a journal to clarify and organize my thoughts. The more I wrote the clearer and quicker the thoughts became. That is why I wrote Developing a Million-Dollar Relationship. It defines my plan of action on how I am going to guarantee I have a long and happy marriage.

As I see it, my wife gambled on me, took the initiative to say ‘I Do’, and chose to spend the rest of her life with me. The least I can do, for both of us, is to make sure that I give her the best odds of winning and having the best years of our lives. The book serves as my manual and record of how I can accomplish that.

Q: Why did you start blogging?
A: Regarding leadership and life lessons, I believe in two rules.

No.1 – Whether or not you want to be a leader, in life, everyone has one person they must lead – Themselves. And whether you want to lead many or simply be a follower; you always have to at least be accountable for yourself. Life is nothing more than leading yourself so well that others cannot help but follow. That is simply why I blog – they are thoughts to myself so that I can lead myself effectively.

No.2 – I follow the 24 Hour Rule. What it says is: if you share with people something new that you learned within 24 hours, you have a higher percentage of remembering it and applying it to your life. (Now - you are doing two things – you are leading yourself and influencing others)

So in essence, the blog offers me the following benefit: A place to share with myself/others what I have learned so that I can retain it and lead myself effectively.

As for my readers, they serve two additional purposes. First they will help to keep my motives pure. Meaning they will help keep me honest and strengthen the thought. Also, if I am involving my readers, I am certainly not going to do something that would be irresponsible for me and definitely not for someone else. The second purpose the reader serves is an outlet to share my ideas. I have an intense desire to add value to people’s lives and this blog fulfills that purpose as well.

Q: So what is next?
A: Currently I am going to continue promoting my blog and book, and I have begun writing my next book which is scheduled for release late 2008. Finally, with a little favor, maybe I will be making an appearance on Oprah. LOL

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